“Emotional abuse is about someone manipulating your emotions on a psychological level” according to Gunta Krumins, BA, PMP, author of The Detrimental Effects of Emotional Abuse
Dr. Steven Stosny, Ph.D. says an emotional abuser controls another person by undermining his or her confidence, worthiness, growth, trust, or emotional stability, or by provoking fear or shame to manipulate or exploit; and that “Emotionally abusive behavior is anything that intentionally hurts the feelings of another person.”
Because of the silent nature of emotional abuse, it’s not untypical for a woman to feel hopeless, depressed, confused and/or trapped. In extreme cases, emotional abusers can break a person’s confidence and spirit to the point they can even convince their victim that they deserve what they get. It is twisted, damaging, and it’s all about control.
Emotional abuse is any nonphysical behavior or attitude that controls, intimidates, subjugates, demeans, punishes or isolates another person by using degradation, humiliation or fear.
Examples of Emotionally Abusive Behaviors:
- Humiliating, degrading, mocking, bullying
- Discounting, distorting, negating, lying
- Accusing, blaming, and threatening
- Isolating the victim from the people and things they care about
- Deception and manipulating people’s emotions, decisions, and situations
- Withholding affection and emotional support
- Withholding financial and practical resources
- Dismissive, disapproving, or contemptuous looks, comments or behavior
- Threatening harm to the victim, their family, friends, pets, or possessions
“Emotional abuse seems more personal than physical abuse, more about you as a person, more about your spirit. It makes love hurt.” -Dr. Steven Stosny, Ph.D.
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