Codependency: Balancing an Unbalanced Relationship

In her new mini-book, Codependency: Balancing an Unbalanced Relationship, award-winning author and speaker, June Hunt says:

“Codependency is a relationship addiction. A codependent is anyone who is dependent on another person to the point of being controlled or manipulated by that person.”

So what drives people to unhealthy dependency?  Hunt says, “Everyone is created with three God-given inner needs–the need for love, for significance, and for security.” When those needs get confused, we can get off track veering into unhealthy zones in our relationships, and also how we think about ourselves.

Our significance and self-value cannot come from another person. We are not meant to meet all of another person’s needs or desires. Likewise, we should never expect, imply, or demand that of another person. Positive and healthy relationships are bi-directional, balancing needs and desires while respecting the necessity for both boundaries and compromise.

Here is her quick checklist. You are in a codependent relationship if:

  • Your excessive care causes you to compromise your convictions
  • Your excessive loyalty leaves you without healthy boundaries
  • Your excessive “love” (note the quotemarks) allows you to say yes when you should say no

This booklet includes biblical-based truths about self-worth, definitions and check-lists to help you assess co-dependendent thinking and behaviors, characteristics and causes of codependency, practical steps to recovery, and ultimate freedom.

About the Author

Author June Hunt

June Hunt is a biblical counselor whose award-winning radio program “Hope for the Heart” is heard on nearly 900 radio outlets around the world. She is a sought-after public speaker on topics such as crisis counseling, child abuse, forgiveness and self-worth. She’s also developed a scripturally based counseling course covering topics including depression and anger, marriage, parenting, stress, suicide, and more. Her “Hope for the Heart” booklets have been translated into 27 languages.

Look for all 25 of the Hope For The Heart mini-books − These books are for men and women who are seeking restoration from circumstances like codependency, anger, conflict, verbal & emotional abuse, and depression.

Purchase the book: Codependency: Balancing an Unbalanced Relationship

Join me on Twitter @DestinysWomen

(c) By April McCallum, Destiny’s Women™ – “Championing the Life, Freedom & Destiny of Women”

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Verbal & Emotional Abuse: Victory Over Verbal and Emotional Abuse

 

In June Hunt’s new booklet, Verbal & Emotional Abuse: Victory Over Verbal and Emotional Abuse, she says: “No one escapes the pain of a broken heart. In the Hebrew language, the meaning of the word translated brokenhearted is literally shattered.”

The award-winning author & speaker packs this mini-book full of biblical-based truths and practical advice on how to stop the pain of abuse and restore peace to your mind, body, emotions, and relationships. You will learn about emotional and verbal abuse, brainwashing and manipulation, the effects of negative words and behavior including the characteristics of passive-aggressive behavior, the familiar faces of abuse, and their root causes.

Then you will get to the good part, the hope part! You will learn how to cope with and confront abusive people, alter the course of an abusive relationship, establish personal boundaries, and gratefully, how to heal a “shattered” heart.

“Words possess immense power. Words can be life-giving as well as life-threatening; life-giving by inspiring us to be all that we were meant to be, and life-threatening by destroying our hopes and dashing our dreams.” –June Hunt

In summation, the author poses the question: “When someone is being verbally or emotionally abusive to you is there anything you can do?” And then responds in conclusion with the affirming and hope-filled answer, Yes! “You do have choices. You can have boundaries. You can have healing.”

About the Author

Author June Hunt

June Hunt is a biblical counselor whose award-winning radio program “Hope for the Heart” is heard on nearly 900 radio outlets around the world. She is a sought-after public speaker on topics such as crisis counseling, child abuse, forgiveness and self-worth. She’s also developed a scripturally based counseling course covering topics including depression and anger, marriage, parenting, stress, suicide, and more. Her “Hope for the Heart” booklets have been translated into 27 languages.

Look for all 25 of the Hope For The Heart mini-books − These books are for men and women who are seeking restoration from circumstances like codependency, anger, conflict, verbal & emotional abuse, and depression.

Purchase the book: Verbal & Emotional Abuse: Victory Over Verbal and Emotional Abuse

Join me on Twitter @DestinysWomen

(c) By April McCallum, Destiny’s Women™ – “Championing the Life, Freedom & Destiny of Women”

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God Crazy Freedom

 

In her book, God Crazy Freedom, author Michelle Borquez brings together over 20 real-life stories from women who found freedom. Even after the odds were stacked so high against them, each woman shares her own very personal journey and how she learned to embrace the future in a brand new and liberating way. Michelle has a passion to ignite and inspire women to seek freedom from whatever is blocking their path to wholeness. To not allow their past to define them, but to discover and then live out the dreams and destinies that await them.

 

“There is nothing more powerful than hearing the story of someone who has overcome and is willing to be real and share about it.”  

Words have power. That is one of the reasons that women sharing their stories of hope and freedom can motivate even the weakest and most fearful among us. They can give us courage to choose to really live. To hear of shattered dreams being made whole, deliverance from an abuser, an addiction, or a paralyzing fear; or victory after a devastaing event in someone else’s life means that there is hope for us. In each chapter you will find a “Freedom Story” along with a biblical-based devotional and practical hope-filled action points.

Michelle is also the author of the Freedom Series. A biblical-based series of mini-books that help women find freedom from bondages, abuse, shame, paralyzing fear, rejection, and more. Look for these books as they become available over the next few months.

“We are God Crazy Women who have found hope at the other end of heartbreak, love at the other end of loneliness, and grace at the other end of our garbage. Join us on the journey!” -Michelle Borquez

About the Author

Author Michelle Borquez-Thornton

Michelle Borquez has hosted and co-produced television’s Shine with Michelle Borquez on INSP; and has also hosted and been a featured guest on numerous radio and television shows. She founded and was the Editor-in-Chief of Shine Magazine, a 40,000 subscriber publication for women. Michelle is a prolific writer, coach, public speaker, and a passionate advocate and mentor for girls and women. 

Currently she is CEO of Bella Women Network (launching in June) featuring Shine with Michelle Borquez along with other programs for women, Bella Bella Gifts, and founder and President of the Dream, Hope, Love foundation, a mentoring organization for young girls. Michelle travels and speaks with her God Crazy team of authentic, very cool, amazing women, and lives with her husband Michael and four children in Nashville, Tennessee.

Purchase the bookGod Crazy Freedom 

Learn More: The Freedom Series by Michelle Borquez

Check out Shine With Michelle Borquez and the Bella Women Network, or join her on Twitter @GodCrazy.

Join me on Twitter @DestinysWomen

(c) By April McCallum, Destiny’s Women™ – “Championing the Life, Freedom & Destiny of Women”

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Freedom Series by Michelle Borquez

The Freedom Series by multi-award winning author & speaker Michelle Borquez includes 12 mini-books focused on key issues that sabbotage women from living their lives to the fullest. Words, life circumstances, and choices that steal our courage, hope, and joy for life. The issues that hamper our ability to forgive or seek forgiveness, and the ability to truly see our future as it can be, which ultimately robs us of what we so desperately want, our freedom.

Topics that resonate with women include fear, abuse, shame, abandonment, divorce, lonlieness, self-value, and more. The primary purpose of this biblical-based series is to bring truth, healing, and hope to women who are caught in the lies that hold them down and keep them from breaking free and reclaiming the lives they were meant to live. This series created by Michelle Borquez presents a variety of authors and will be in book stores beginning in April. 

“Michelle Borquez is a bundle of energy; a veritable wellspring of love, joy, and enthusiasm; and an incredible communicator of a message that can transform the world. Her passion for her work is only exceeded by her compassion for those who hurt. She truly brings life, hope, and healing to everyone she encounters.” -Ken Abraham, New York Times bestselling author

About the Author

Author Michelle Borquez-Thornton

Michelle Borquez hosted and co-produced I-Life Television’s SHINE with Michelle Borquez on INSP. She has hosted and been a featured guest on hundreds of television and radio programs, including, NBC’s Midday Connection, The 700 Club, Life Today with James and Betty Robinson, Positively Texas, TBN, just to name a few. She founded Shine Magazine, a 40,000 subscriber publication for women featuring fashion, travel and health articles. As Editor-in-Chief, she interviewed well-known personalities such as First Lady Laura Bush, Anne Graham-Lotz, Michael W. Smith, Kurt Warner, Chuck and Gena Norris, Beth Moore, and many more. She is a prolific writer and passionate advocate and mentor for girls and women. 

Currently she is CEO of Bella Women Network (launching in June) featuring, Shine with Michelle Borquez along with other programs for women; Bella Bella Gifts; and founder and President of the Dream, Hope, Love foundation, a mentoring organization for young girls. Michelle travels and speaks with her God Crazy team of authentic, very cool, amazing women, and lives with her husband Michael and four children in Nashville, Tennessee.

You may also be interested in:

God Crazy Freedom (or purchase the book, God Crazy Freedom by Michelle Borquez.)

Live Again: Wholeness After Divorce (8-session DVD kit for individuals or groups)

Check out Shine With Michelle Borquez and the Bella Women Network, or join her on Twitter @GodCrazy.

Join me on Twitter @DestinysWomen

(c) By April McCallum, Destiny’s Women™ – “Championing the Life, Freedom & Destiny of Women”

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Forgiveness: The Freedom to Let Go

 

Forgiveness: The Freedom to Let Go is a power-packed little booklet by award-winning author and speaker June Hunt. It begins with a brief intro into the life of a woman who lost her father and sister at Ravensbruck, one of Hitler’s most notorious death camps. Their alleged offense? Protecting the lives of Jewish people who were being hunted down simply because they were Jews. Her name was Corrie Ten Boom. Her story–their story–is told in the movie, The Hiding Place.

In large part, Corrie Ten Boom’s story became so powerful because of her willingness to choose forgiveness. In so doing, she not only released her captors and the murderers of her family, but she released herself.

“When you refuse to forgive, your unforgiveness keeps you emotionally stuck to both the offense and the offender”

The author tackles misconceptions about forgiveness, barriers to forgiveness, root causes of unforgiveness, and the high cost of unforgiveness based around biblical truths. She answers several practical questions including, “How can I release the bitterness toward my offender, who is now dead?” She also articulates the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation, and responds to an argument so many of us can relate to: “I cannot forgive and forget. I keep thinking about being hurt,” along with other common concerns.

“Forgiveness is not explaining away the hurt. It is working through the hurt.”

She says, “Some people never say I forgive you, and they live in bitterness while others find the way to forgiveness and peace.” If you are struggling with issues of bitterness, injustice, or unforgiveness, this little booklet will tell you what the difference is and how you can find freedom.

When we hold tight to bitterness and unforgiveness thinking we are punishing our offenders, in reality, we are punishing ourselves and will remain locked in our own prisons until we find our way to forgiveness.

About the Author

Author June Hunt

June Hunt is a biblical counselor whose award-winning radio program “Hope for the Heart” is heard on nearly 900 radio outlets around the world. She is a sought-after public speaker on topics such as crisis counseling, child abuse, forgiveness and self-worth. She’s also developed a scripturally based counseling course covering topics including depression and anger, marriage, parenting, stress, suicide, and more. Her “Hope for the Heart” booklets have been translated into 27 languages.

 

Look for all 25 of the Hope For The Heart mini-books − These books are for men and women who are seeking restoration from circumstances like codependency, anger, conflict, verbal & emotional abuse, and depression.

Purchase the book: Forgiveness: The Freedom to Let Go

Join me on Twitter @DestinysWomen

(c) By April McCallum, Destiny’s Women™ – “Championing the Life, Freedom & Destiny of Women”

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Anger: Facing the Fire Within

June Hunt’s new mini-book, Anger: Facing the Fire Within asks the question: What do you do when you are inflamed with angry thoughts and feelings? Notice, it doesn’t ask about the cause of our anger. It doesn’t inquire if our anger is justified, rational, or provoked. It simply asks what we do with our anger.

In this little booklet, you will learn about different types and sources of anger, misconceptions about anger, emotions and behaviours that are connected to anger, the emotional, physical, and spiritual consequences of anger, and how anger affects your relationships and quality of life.

 

“Anger is typically rooted in hurt, injustice, fear, or frustration… prolonged anger fans the flame of bitterness and robs your heart of peace.”

The last section titled “Steps to Solution” gives practical information and advice on:

  • Measuring and analyzing your anger
  • How to get rid of childhood or past anger
  • How to reconcile with God and people
  • How to alleviate present anger
  • How to communicate your anger to another

Don’t allow anger, whether justified or not, to keep you from your peace. Learn your triggers, find your boundaries, learn ways to deal with anger in yourself or others, and embrace your freedom.

About the Author

Author June Hunt

June Hunt is a biblical counselor whose award-winning radio program “Hope for the Heart” is heard on nearly 900 radio outlets around the world. She is a sought-after public speaker on topics such as crisis counseling, child abuse, forgiveness and self-worth. She’s also developed a scripturally based counseling course covering topics including depression and anger, marriage, parenting, stress, suicide, and more. Her “Hope for the Heart” booklets have been translated into 27 languages.

Look for all 25 of the Hope For The Heart mini-books − These books are for men and women who are seeking restoration from circumstances like codependency, anger, conflict, verbal & emotional abuse, and depression.

Purchase the book: Anger: Facing the Fire Within

Join me on Twitter @DestinysWomen

(c) By April McCallum, Destiny’s Women™ – “Championing the Life, Freedom & Destiny of Women”

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