Overcoming Fear and Worry

 Book Cover - Overcoming Fear and Worry

The good news is, we can decide whether we prefer a life of fear and worry or a life of freedom from fear and worry.

Dr. H. Norman Wright’s book, Overcoming Fear & Worry is broken up into sections that help readers understand fear and worry and how to overcome both. It is an easy-reading book that offers practical ways to challenge and lift readers out of unhealthy and defeatist ways of thinking and behaving. The author discusses the healthy and unhealthy power of fear and the negative impact of worry, including how we view and relate to both, and what we allow or disallow.

The book addresses the causes and effects of fear, and helps readers to take inventory and assess the role allowed and assigned to it. This underscores the importance of how we relate to fear and worry in regard to decision-making and the impact in both pivotal and everyday decisions in our lives.

While fear can be a negative force–debilitating, paralyzing and often the cause of a life of mediocrity, the author says, “Hope is a totally different motivating force—a positive drive. Hope is like a magnet that draws you toward your goal. Hope expands your life and brings a message of possibility and change.”

The author also speaks to the correlation of fear and perfectionism, and “taming the monster of what-ifs”. He clearly discusses our human capacity to analyze, identify and re-train our minds about the thoughts that form beliefs that we eventually act upon.

“The fear of life is actually more debilitating than the fear of death. Fear disables. Fear shortens life. Fear cripples our relationships with others. Fear blocks our relationship with God.”

Readers will learn how the roles of physiology, genetics/biochemistry and personality relate to fear and worry; and, how real or imagined fears and worry play a part in our emotional, spiritual and physical well-being.

The book offers practical advice on how to rearrange destructive “what if” scenarios into potential for positive outcome “what if” scenarios; and replacement thoughts and statements. All meant to help re-align a person’s thinking with reality, logic and/or real possibility.

Unhealthy fears and worry starve our potential and strangulate our freedom keeping us from living our best lives. Learn how to break patterns of fear and worry and re-focus on solutions versus problems from a biblical perspective.

This book is ideal for individuals seeking freedom from the burdens created by fear and worry and as a tool for use in a group study/discussion. It would also work well as a guide or supplement for counseling situations.

About the Author

Dr. H. Norman Wright is a grief and trauma therapist and a licensed marriage, family and child therapist. He has been on the faculty of Biola University and Talbot School of Theology, where he has taught graduate students in counseling and psychology for four decades. He has authored more than 80 books including Experiencing Grief and Recovering from the Losses in Life. 

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Note: Rose Publishing provided me with an advanced reader copy of this book.

(c) By April McCallum, Destiny’s Women™–”Championing the Life, Freedom & Destiny of Women”

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Going “Pink” for Twitter Art Exhibit 2014

Pink 2 by April McCallum

When I learned about the call for artists to participate in the Twitter Art Exhibit 2014, I decided to open my creative toolbox and start creating!

So, What’s the big idea? Well, it is a big idea, but it’s also a lot of little ideas that come together to form something quite powerful. Twitter Art Exhibit uses social media and public engagement to generate income for charities and nonprofit organizations. Artists from around the globe donate postcard-sized, handmade original artwork to help raise funds for a cause. Everyone from the artists to the organizers volunteer their time and talents, and 100% of the proceeds go to benefit the charity of choice. (Twitter Art Exhibit 2014 recipient: Special Needs Classes: The Contemporary Dance Center, Orlando, Florida).

"Pink Love 2" @AprilCartoons, April McCallum Designs

“Pink Love 2” @AprilCartoons, April McCallum Designs, Twitter Art Exhibit

I’ve long been a champion of marrying art with causes because I believe visuals can leave an impression that words alone cannot. Apart from my regular cartoons and illustrations, I also create collections of advocacy art, including Breast Cancer Awareness themes. My postcard-sized art contribution is titled: “Pink Love 2”. In keeping with my typical style, it incorporates simple clean lines, hot colors, design elements, and lots of white space. It also presents a “picassoesque” body image that is open to interpretation as breast cancer is such a personal journey and unique to every woman.

Every 74 seconds, somewhere in the world, someone dies from breast cancer. -Susan G. Komen

Twitter Art Exhibit founder and artist, David Sandum understands that the positive and influential power of social media, art, and collaboration to communicate and evoke action can make a unique and tangible difference in the world. Learn more: Twitter Art Exhibit 2014: Creating Art for Good.

Twitter Art Exhibit, Pink Inspiration

Inspiration for #TwitterArtExhibit

In keeping with the social media emphasis, check out my Twitter Art Exhibit board on Pinterest for a sneak peek at some of the creative energy generated by this event! Or, my Pink Passion for Life board on Pinterest. You can also join me on Twitter @AprilCartoons where I tweet about creativity, communications, branding, and innovation; or visit my online shop for breast cancer awareness.

A big thank you to artists David Sandum for championing humanity and the arts through social entrepreneurialism, Robin Maria Pedrero for curating the 2014 event, and fellow board organizers. Follow them on Twitter at @DavidSandum, @robinpedrero, @Twitrartexhibit using hashtag #TwitterArtExhibit, and on Facebook.

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Sealed with a Kiss! #TwitterArtExhibit

The exhibit will take place on March 20th 2014 at the CityArts Factory in Orlando, Florida. Artwork will be displayed through April 11th, 2014 and open to online sales to the public after opening night.

And with that, I send off my little piece of artwork, along with other artists from around the globe, and seal it with a kiss (for a good cause). With art, we can change the world!

 

 

(c) By April McCallum, Destiny’s Women™–”Championing the Life, Freedom & Destiny of Women”

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Susan G. Komen for the Cure Founder an Ambassador for Life

Nancy G. Brinker, Founder & CEO Susan G. Komen for the Cure

Susan G. Komen fought breast cancer and lost her life to it.  Nancy G. Brinker promised her sister that she would do everything in her power to end breast cancer forever. Because of her love for her sister, her own tenacity, and a promise, she is fighting breast cancer and winning. That promise translated into the Susan G. Komen for the Cure®, the global leader of the breast cancer movement, having invested more than $1.9 billion since its inception in 1982. Her legacy is a testament to Living on Purpose and promoting life.

It’s amazing how one decision can change the course of a person’s life (and legacy) forever. In 2008, Nancy G. Brinker was honored as one of the ”100 Most Influential People” by TIME magazine. Among numerous other achievements, she has been awarded the Forbes Trailblazer Award, Ladies Home Journal’s 100 Most Important Women of the 20th Century, Biography Magazine’s 25 Most Powerful Women in America, and the Presidential Medal of Freedom, and the Goodwill Ambassador for Cancer Control for the U.N.’s World Health Organization, and the list goes on.

Since its inception, Susan G. Komen for the Cure®, has become the world’s largest grassroots network of breast cancer survivors and activists working together to save lives, empower people, ensure quality care for all, and energize science to find cures. They are also the largest source of nonprofit funds dedicated to the fight against breast cancer in the world.

Nancy reflects:

“Suzy and I talked many times about the conditions of the waiting rooms and how people felt, the lack of research, the lack of knowledge and empowerment — everything that happened along the way.”

She remembers the conversations and feelings about the process and experience breast cancer patients were saddled with, from spending long hours in waiting rooms with uncomfortable chairs and empty walls–as if the swirls of sickness, exhaustion and fear weren’t already enough to bare, to a lack of information and programs with a personal touch for victims, survivors and their loved ones. She quotes Susan as saying: “As soon as I get better, let’s do something about this.  You can find a way to speed up the research. I know you can. And I want to fix up this waiting room and make it pretty for the women who have to be here.  This isn’t right.”

Sadly, her sister didn’t get better. After nine operations, three courses of chemo and radiation, she lost her 3-year battle with cancer. But Nancy Brinker never forgot. Before the luxury of internet and social networking, she stood determined, undaunted and full of vision.  Enter: A Dream.

“I had a dream in which I saw a lot of people — a lot of fierce, but attractive, healthy women running. They were running, and they were in pink. Pink was my sister’s favorite color. I said to myself, “What we have here is a race. This mission we are on is a race for the cure.” Now we are the largest grassroots breast cancer organization in the world.”

Against multiple odds and uncharted territory, she followed her dream, her destiny–and began living her life on purpose. The outcome?  Her work, through creative advocacy and the promotion of life through legal and social networks, has saved and impacted millions of lives around the globe. Read Nancy’s powerful book, “Promise Me: How a Sister’s Love Launched the Global Movement to End Breast Cancer.”

There was a point when Nancy wrestled with how she could positively impact the lives and experiences of other women struggling with breast cancer, and those who surrounded them. She wanted her sister to know how special she was and that she’d always be in her heart. She posed the question to herself that so many of us do:

“Could one person really make a difference?”

She is quoted as saying that her father often said: “It’s not that people fail because they have bad ideas. It is that they quit.”  How grateful women and people around the globe are, that Nancy Brinker didn’t quit.  She proved beyond any shadow of a doubt that yes, one person really can make a difference!  How proud her sister, Susan G. Komen, would be of her, and to know her sister kept her promise.

Get Educated. It’s Free!  Get outreach materials, learn how to be a good support system for someone who has breast cancer, participate in a fundraising event, about breast self-awareness, and questions to ask your doctor, facts and information, and more.

PinkPassion for Life™–”Raising Eyebrows & Making Memorable Impressions for Breast Cancer™” is a Collection of Advocacy Art by April McCallum designed as a creative way to raise awareness and find a cure for breast cancer. Shop Online.

(c) By April McCallum, Destiny’s Women™ – “Championing the Life, Freedom & Destiny of Women”

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Hold On, Pain Does Not Last Forever

We can endure much more than we think we can; all human experience testifies to that. All we need to do is learn not to be afraid of pain. Grit your teeth and let it hurt. Don’t deny it, don’t be overwhelmed by it. It will not last forever. One day, the pain will be gone and you will still be there. -Harold Kushner

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Depression: Walking From Darkness Into the Dawn

Women experience twice the rate of depression as men. -The National Alliance on Mental Health

Depression is crippling. It has the power to change the course of people’s lives, their relationships, opportunities, and futures. According to the National Institute of Mental Health, when people suffer with depression it interferes with daily life and causes pain not only to the sufferer, but those who care about them. Though depression is common, it is a serious illness. From the outside looking in, it’s hard to imagine that nearly 1 million people “end their journey of isolation and hope by taking their own life” every year.

Depression is Debilitating

I saw a brilliant man who was tormented with his own demons. Tormented with self doubt, self-hate. I did not fully understand what was happening to him, and that is when I realized he had been hiding his darkness. –Katrina

Depression: Walking From Darkness Into the Dawn is part of the Hope for the Heart series authored by June Hunt. Hunt is a popular speaker, radio host, and counselor known for offering biblical hope and practical help at pivotal times in people’s lives. She writes, “Those who struggle in the darkness of depression have difficulty seeing the good in their circumstances and especially in themselves.” Hunt helps people understand where depression originates, why it keeps them stuck, and how to walk out of the darkness and into the light.

“In wearing masks, we try to protect our hearts and hide who we really are and what we don’t want to face.”

Understanding the Basics

Readers will learn:

Definitions of Depression: Including psychological depression, classic types of depression and specific definitions of mood disorders.

Characteristics of Depression: Including normal depression, masked depression, neurotic depression, and psychotic depression.

Causes of Depression: Including physical, emotional and spiritual-related depression.

Steps to Solution: Including “taking off masks”; creating a personal timeline of meaningful events to help in assessing roots and causes; Do’s and Don’ts for Family and Friends; and, How You Can Help sections.

Connecting the Dots

“Depressed people see life through a black filter, feeling hatred toward themselves, hopeless about their situations and hopeless over their future.”

Depression affects the whole person. In her book, Hunt speaks to the emotional connection with depression including repressed anger and bitterness; a physical connection including hormonal imbalances, genetic vulnerabilities and healthy lifestyle choices; and a spiritual connection including suppressed fears (abandonment, rejection, failure) and internalized stress (relationships, finances, responsibilities).

Getting Help

Readers will learn what it means for their heart to be in a “state of depression”; how life events (rejection, abuse, divorce, death); medications; and negative or destructive thought patterns can contribute to depression.

After establishing the “what” and “whys” of depression, the author offers positive and empowering counsel on how to begin walking out of the darkness of depression. A common and critical theme throughout the booklet is the importance of replacing dark thoughts with truth (reality). She suggests writing a Thanksgiving List, getting outside of yourself by helping others, allowing for healthy grieving and healing when appropriate, and more. She also lists related scripture verses and a Q&A section; and encourages readers to seek professional medical help as needed.

If you or someone you know is struggling with depression, help is available and relief is possible. This biblical-based booklet will provide a quick overview with both practical and spiritual help for individuals or counselors.

Author June Hunt

About the Author

June Hunt is a biblical counselor whose award-winning radio program “Hope for the Heart” is heard on nearly 900 radio outlets around the world. She is a sought-after public speaker on topics such as crisis counseling, child abuse, forgiveness and self-worth. Her “Hope for the Heart” booklets have been translated into 27 languages.

Additional Resources:

National Alliance on Mental Health: Women and Depression

Mayo Clinic: Depression in Women: Understanding the Gender Gap

National Suicide Prevention Hotline

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Note: Rose Publishing provided me with an advanced reader copy of this booklet.

(c) By April McCallum, Destiny’s Women™–”Championing the Life, Freedom & Destiny of Women”

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15 Quotes about Suicide

Life ebbs and flows, and is forever changing. When darkness, pain, or despair feel like permanent companions, it’s important to remember, nothing ever remains the same forever. Darkness can lift. We can find relief from pain and sadness. And hope, though it may seem buried and no longer within reach, is still very much alive whether we feel it or not. Hold on because there are people that love you, dreams to chase, experiences and joys yet to be discovered, and most of all, because your life is a gift to you and the world, and it really does matter. Take courage… Choose life.

People never forget a friend or loved one who has succeeded in suicide. We carry it every day, not in the back of our minds, but in the center of our broken hearts. -Candace

Suicide is a desperate attempt to get out of what seems to be an intolerable situation. It appears to be a way of escape from the pain of living. -June Hunt

No one teaches you how to do this. How do you let go of someone who you love so much? -Kathy

When people kill themselves, they think they’re ending the pain, but all they’re doing is passing it on to those they leave behind. -Jeanette Walls

But in the end one needs more courage to live than to kill himself. -Albert Camus

I feel as though the carpet had been ripped right out from under me, and I have been left to pick up the pieces of a dream that would never be fulfilled. -Katrina

Sometimes even to live, is an act of courage. -Seneca

It’s hell. But it is survivable. You have to understand that and take ownership of it: suicidal feelings and behavior are survivable. -Suicide Survivor

To have him gone forever is a pain that will never go away. -Bethany

Those struggling with life-threatening thoughts do not feel connected to others. They feel all alone— even alone in the midst of a crowd. -June Hunt

I’m the girl nobody knows until she commits suicide. Then suddenly everyone had a class with her. -Tom Leveen

Did you really want to die?
No one commits suicide because they want to die.
Then why do they do it?
Because they want to stop the pain.
-Tiffanie DeBartolo

She will never know how much she is loved. -Desiree

When people are suicidal, their thinking is paralyzed, their options appear spare or nonexistent, their mood is despairing, and hopelessness permeates their entire mental domain. The future cannot be separated from the present, and the present is painful beyond solace. ‘This is my last experiment,’ wrote a young chemist in his suicide note. ‘If there is any eternal torment worse than mine I’ll have to be shown’. -Kay Redfield Jamison

At the split second I hit freefall, I didn’t want to die. What did I just do? The voices were gone. I was right there, facing ultimate death… I said God, please let me live. –Kevin Hines

Psychologist, Dr. Sheldon Solomon says: We all have the capacity to create meaning and to lead rich lives. This is a possibility that defies nationality, class, and culture. We can all get through dark times; we can choose life, and we can come out stronger in the process.

Resources:

For help, contact the Suicide Prevention Hotline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) anytime 24/7, to be connected with a skilled, trained counselor at a crisis center in your area.

Learn More: American Foundation for Suicide Prevention

Suicide Prevention Tools that Can Help Save Lives (by Lisa Firestone, ph.D.)

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(c) By April McCallum, Destiny’s Women™–”Championing the Life, Freedom & Destiny of Women”

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She Will Never Know…

Desiree’s friend died in a suicide pact with her boyfriend.  She was only 17.

She will never know the number of people she has hurt.
She will never know the damage she has done.
She will never know how many people she touched with her vibrant spirit.
She will never know how much she will be missed.
She will never know how much she is loved. –Desiree

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GO RED FOR WOMEN 2013

Go Red For Women is an answer to The American Heart Association’s call asking America to go out and paint the town red to show support for women and heart disease.

One of the greatest myths about heart disease is that it is an illness that only affects older men.  As a response and call to dispel that myth, The American Heart Association created Go Red For Women. In their words, it’s “a passionate, emotional, social initiative designed to empower women to take charge of their heart health.”

Go Red For Women raises awareness, encourages women to band together in their efforts to fight heart disease, empowers them by providing educational tools, and encourages them to reduce their personal risk by leading a more aware and healthy lifestyle.

Here are 3 quick facts you may not know about women and heart disease:

  • Heart Disease is the number 1 killer of women
  • Heart Disease is more deadly than all forms of cancer combined
  • Heart Disease is the cause of death of 1 in 3 women, about one death every minute

Learn More: Heart Disease Statistics at a Glance  and Common Myths About Heart Disease. Watch the Official GoRed4Women You Tube Video: “The Real Women of 2012”.

Contributing to Women’s Heart Health is only a heartbeat away! You can SHOP and/or DONATE online today.    

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(c) By April McCallum, Destiny’s Women™ – “Championing the Life, Freedom & Destiny of Women”

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The Heart of MARY KAY: Enriching the Lives of Women

What do you think of when you hear “Mary Kay”?  Do you think of the symbolic Mary Kay pink Cadillac, assorted shades of pink lipstick, or a group of women friends gathering to sample new cosmetics and skincare products?  Think again.

Founder Mary Kay Ash said, “I’ve often said that we are doing something far more important than just selling cosmetics; we are changing lives.”  The tagline for the Mary Kay Foundation is, “A Legacy of Love”, born out of Mary Kay Ash’s ongoing desire to help women live better, offer opportunities to give, and bring hope to those less fortunate. The Foundation was launched in 1996 and continues today with the goal of ending the epidemic of violence against women and to end women’s cancers.

Do you know what the #1 cause of injury is for women ages 15 to 44? It is Domestic Violence. There are no boundaries for domestic violence. It affects young and old, rich and poor and reaches across all demographics. Not only do victims suffer physical harm, but psychological and emotional pain as well.

National Domestic Violence Awareness Month

Every October, the Mary Kay Foundation awards grants to women’s domestic violence shelters across the United States. In 2011, the Foundation awarded $20,000 grants to more than 150 women’s domestic violence shelters across the nation for a total of $3 million. Each year, an award is also given to at least one women’s shelter in every state.

Mary Kay Inc. and independent sales force members have lobbied Congress and state legislatures since the 1980s on issues including the Violence Against Women Act and most recently, teen dating violence awareness and prevention.

Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month

On top of that, Mary Kay has also played a partnership role in introducing preventive curriculum for teen dating violence and lending support to the Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month by joining forces with the national nonprofit, Break the Cycle to sponsor its interactive Ending Violence DVD. The film has been made available to schools nationwide since 2010, along with other program tools.

Women’s Cancers

In tandem with advocacy efforts to end violence against women, Independent Mary Kay Beauty Consultants are promoting the sixth annual Team Up for Women! ® fundraiser March 23 to May 12.

  • One in three women are diagnosed with some form of cancer during their lifetime.
  • One in eight women will be diagnosed with breast cancer during her lifetime.

In 2011, the Mary Kay Foundation awarded $1.3 million in grants to select doctors and medical scientists focused on cutting-edge research and curing cancers that affect women. Since 1996, the Foundation has given more than $14 million to support this effort.

Mary Kay Ash’s legacy of enriching women’s lives, lives on. From a $5,000 ground-breaking startup in 1963 to a global multibillion-dollar success, she has put her money where her heart is.  Have you ever noticed that there’s something a little extra special that happens when people purpose to think and give outside of themselves? “Before you ever receive the wonderful treasures of a happy life, you must first give. Give of yourself. Be of service to others. Only what you give can be multiplied back into your own life.” –Mary Kay Ash.

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(c) By April McCallum, Destiny’s Women™ – “Championing the Life, Freedom & Destiny of Women”
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GO RED FOR WOMEN Campaign Celebrates Women’s Heart Health

 

What does it mean when 500,000 women drop off the planet with similar life-ending issues, and no one stops to take notice of their linked cause and effect?  In large part, people weren’t paying attention. They weren’t connecting the dots. Why? According to the American Heart Association (AHA), as a whole, we didn’t view or relate to Cardiovascular disease as a women’s issue. We saw it as an “older man’s disease”. 

Heart Disease is the #1 Killer of Women in the United States -AHA

The AHA needed to find a way to get the attention of the public, especially the women who were at the greatest risk. But getting their attention was only a beginning. They needed to raise mass awareness about the cause and effect of our health lifestyles and the surrounding factors that contribute to our heart health.  Along with advocacy efforts, re-education was also critical because most women ignored warnings and symptoms not understanding that women were prime targets for heart disease.

Heart Disease Kills More Women than ALL Cancers Combined –AHA

The Red Dress

In 2003, the National Heart, Lung and Blood Institute (NHLBI) teamed with the American Heart Association and others to raise awareness for women and heart disease.  The NHLBI introduced the Red Dress as a symbol that unified all of their efforts. AHA adopted the Red Dress symbol to create synergy among all the groups fighting for their collaborative cause.

The Go Red for Women® movement challenges women to know their risk for heart disease and take action to reduce their personal risk.

Are You Ready to “Go Red” for Women?

Here are a few ways you can get involved:

  • Although the official “Go Red for Women®” Day was February 3, 2012, you can plan your own event ANY day of the year!  It’s an easy and fun way to raise awareness and engage your networks.  Think about your own networks: corporate sponsorship events, church groups, fitness groups, small business owners, neighborhood friends, family–wherever people connect with people!  Have fun with the red dress–women love to dress up and get creative using themes!
  • Join with other women to help raise awareness and funds for heart disease: Attend a Go Red for Women Luncheon in your area.
  • If you have the ability to make a significant financial contribution, consider joining arms with other committed and passionate women through the Circle of Red campaign.
  • As with all causes, the energy and creativity of grassroots efforts makes a profound difference. With the Red for Women Get-Together, you can do it your way!  Get free resources (PowerPoints, posters, flyers, guides, etc.), start your own fundraising page online, access real-life stories, swap heart-healthy recipes, and more.
  • Shop at ShopHeart.org for eye-catching Go Red items that support the cause.
  • Consider creating a memorial or tribute page in honor of a woman you love. What a personal and impacting way to showcase the threat and reality of heart disease in women.
  • Show your support for women’s heart health by shopping. It doesn’t get any easier than this! View the online list of corporate sponsors & supporters.

To Donate or Learn More about ways you can get involved, visit GoRedForWomen.org online!

Have YOU Gone Red Yet?

Related Article: Heart Health for the Love of Women

Women’s Information on: Signs of heart disease, risks, prevention, questions to ask your doctor, and more, from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC)

Go Red and Go Red for Women are trademarks of AHA. The Red Dress Design is a trademark of U.S. DHHS.

(c) By April McCallum, Destiny’s Women™ – “Championing the Life, Freedom & Destiny of Women”

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