Archives for March 2013

Only One You!

“The one thing that you have that nobody else has is you. Your voice, your mind, your story, your vision. So write and draw and build and play and dance and live as only you can.” -Neil Gaiman


20 Quotes about Pushing Past Fear

Fear is the enemy of our potential and our freedom. Life is full of challenges and struggles, disappointments and disillusionments. But the good news is, even in the midst of the uncertain, scary, or dark times, there is always hope. In reality, fear is a poser masquerading as truth. 

“He who fears something gives it power over him.” –Moorish Proverb

“The only thing we have to fear is fear itself–nameless, unreasoning, unjustified, terror which paralyzes.” –Franklin D. Roosevelt

“Fear is the prison of the heart.” –Anonymous

“We have lived through fear all our lives, and when you have gone through a whole lot of fear, sometimes all you can do is resist the fear, and resistance comes in the form of courage.” –Leymah Gbowee

“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience by which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.'” –Eleanor Roosevelt

“I had to live because I wasn’t going to give my attackers everything.” –Congolese Woman  

“Decide that you want it more than you are afraid of it.” –Bill Cosby

“The wise man in the storm prays God, not for safety from danger, but for deliverance from fear.” –Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Feed your courage, starve your fears.” –April McCallum

“There is much in the world to make us afraid. there is much more in our faith to make us unafraid. –Frederick W. Cropp

“Fear cannot take what you do not give it.” –Christopher Coan

“Being afraid is a state of paralysis in which you can’t do anything.” –Marcus Luttrell

“I have learned over the years that when one’s mind is made up, this diminishes fear.” –Rosa Parks

“It’s not what you are that holds you back, it’s what you think you are not.” –Denis Waitley

“I have accepted fear as a part of life, specifically the fear of change… I have gone ahead despite the pounding in the heart that says: turn back.” –Erica Jong

“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit at home and think about it. Go out and get busy.” –Dale Carnegie

“As fear is a close companion to falsehood, so truth follows fearlessness.” –Jawaharlar Nehru

“How we handle our fears will determine where we go with the rest of our lives.” –Judy Blume

“Don’t fear failure so much that you refuse to try new things. The saddest summary of a life contains three descriptions: could have, might have, and should have.” –Louis E. Boone

“The thing you fear most has no power. Your fear of it is what has the power. Facing truth really will set you free.” –Oprah Winfrey

Fear tries to keep us from living the lives and dreams that we were intended to live–fully and wholly alive. It is a liar and a dream killer. Fear in and of itself is not an end. It is an obstacle, but it is not an end. Hope says, there is more to this story!

Related Article: “Fear is a Liar”

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(c) By April McCallum, Destiny’s Women™–“Championing the Life, Freedom & Destiny of Women”


Fear is a Liar

A Psychology Today article rightly states, “Fear is a vital response to physical and emotional danger—if we didn’t feel it, we couldn’t protect ourselves from legitimate threats”.  Fear has been described as a distressing emotion aroused by impending danger, evil, or pain. Whether real or imagined, fear can produce a sense of panic, dread, or foreboding that can produce thoughts and feelings that are the same–thoughts that are dark, irrational, or debilitating.

Those kinds of fears become burdens that mock us in our private places, causing us to feel impotent, paranoid, or foolish. They are joy killers, dream quellers, saboteurs of freedom, and the enemy of our best selves.

Our minds and emotions are so powerful that they can dictate our attitudes, feelings, and behaviors if we allow them to. That is, how we relate to the world both outside ourselves and inside ourselves. You may have heard the expression: FEAR False Evidence Appearing Real. That is the type of fear that is a liar.

It is the enemy of our potential and our freedom. It limits the oxygen flow to rational thinking and being.  In reality, fear is a poser masquerading as truth. It is an imposter that whispers in the dark telling us we are not able, worthy, relevant, that no one cares about us, or that our dreams don’t matter. Sometimes fear even tells us that we deserve pain or failure. It tries to keep us from living the lives and dreams that we were intended to livefully and wholly alive.

All of us will experience scary and uncertain times. The truth is, there will be challenges and struggles, disappointments and disillusionments in this life. But the good news is, there is hope. Fear in and of itself, is not an end. It is an obstacle, but not an end. Hope says, there is more to this story!

On the flipside of fear, there is life, and joy, and fulfillment. The goal is to keep on keeping on. As Eleanor Roosevelt put it, “to look fear in the face”, taking the courage to keep moving forward, past, or through–but always onward.  Though at times, unhealthy fears will try to bully their way in front of us and block our path, we can choose to ignore them, push past them, and even speak to them—Get out of my way! 

If unhealthy fear, whether real or imagined, is holding you back from a prosperous life, take time to look it in the face. Determine that it will no longer enslave you. Choose what voices you will listen to and which ones you need to shut out. If there are negative relationships that empower your fears and rob you of your peace, it’s time to let go. Time waits for no one. Embrace truth. Your dreams and future await your best you now.

Live the life you’ve imagined.

Breathe deep.

Take courage.

Lace up your wings and fly free!

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(c) By April McCallum, Destiny’s Women™ – “Championing the Life, Freedom & Destiny of Women”


Ripples of Hope


“Each time we stand up for an ideal, or act to improve the lot of others, or strike out against injustice, we send forth a tiny ripple of hope, and crossing each other from a million different centers of energy and daring, those ripples build a current that can sweep down the mightiest walls of oppression and resistance.” -Robert F. Kennedy


International Women’s Day 2013: You’ve Come a Long Way Baby… But We’re Not Done Yet!


International Women’s Day is a global celebration of women past, present and future and their achievements.

As we read through history, and hear current accounts of the advancement of women’s rights, there is much cause to celebrate. Not because women want to be men, or because women feel the need to be superior to men. But because women being granted equal rights to treatement and access allows them to be treated equally as human beings.

So much has been said about the “War on Women”. In my view, the war on women includes anything that seeks to inhibit, destroy, demean, or deny a girl or woman her rightful place in existence. Not just at a certain point in history, or within her particular culture, but something even bigger than that. The war on women means the things that try to mess with her destiny to dream, be free, be valued, and to live her life fully. It’s about her purpose, her passions, and her very existence as a living breathing human being–one that will, if allowed, leave her unique impression in the world.

So blatant are these opponents, that they still dare to rear their ugly heads even in this so-called “modern civilization” of humanity. An old marketing slogan said, “You’ve come a long way baby!” But undeniably, there is still a long way left to go. That is why we continue to raise our voices, and to lead, not to be led. Let us think with our minds, feel with our hearts, for ourselves, and not be coerced into deception. As Martin Luther King, Jr. said, “Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere.” Things are constantly evolving, we must commit to being vigilant about the things that matter most. Walt Whitman said, “Either define the moment or the moment will define you.” In the same way, as fellow sojourners, we either choose to define ideologies, attitudes, and behaviors in our world based on immutable truth or, something else will define them for us.   

It is for the modern-day war on women. It is for those trapped in sex trafficking, and child pornography, and the corrupt hearts and systems of a broken world that perpetuate their enslavement. It is for the child brides, and those women who still today, are required to cover their faces as they walk the planet. It is because of dowry murders, using rape as a weapon of war, and all violent crimes against women. It is for the girls and women who are denied a proper education, property rights, medical care, or even a place at the proverbial table to simply let their voice be heard.

It is for the women who would have been, but whose voices were snuffed out before they could take their first breath–those counted as “nothing” through the assault of female gendercide and infanticide. For those baby girls who were denied their right to live just because of their gender, and for their mothers whose hearts are ripped from them, along with the daughters from their very hands and wombs.

So, today, I stand with so many other women (and men) around the globe who are grateful for the hard-fought accomplishments on behalf of women’s human rights.  And in the same breath we say, keep on keeping on, because we’re not there yet. It is nearing twilight, and there is still much work to be done.

Let’s celebrate the life, destiny, and freedom of all women–past, present, and future–their potential, their dreams, and their ability to accomplish great things with the help of a united voice championing their powerful destiny.

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(c) By April McCallum, Destiny’s Women™ – “Championing the Life, Freedom & Destiny of Women”

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