Victims of Bullying

It takes courage to stand alone for your beliefs in the face of intolerance and judgment.

It takes bravery to use your voice when presented with lies and betrayal.

It takes boldness to speak out when everyone else’s silence is deafening.

It takes faith to keep believing in humanity when humans tear us down.

It takes strength to get up and face your demons, your critics, your enemies.

It takes heart to forgive when those who hurt us don’t even know they need our forgiveness.

It takes tenacity, sometimes, to simply breathe in and breathe out.

It takes resilience to take one more step, look in the mirror, face your fears and live to fight just one more day.

Those who keep on keeping on in the midst of unwarranted aggression, torment, fear and bullying are warriors. They are the ones who are strong enough to refuse ultimate defeat. They refuse to allow the smallness, ugliness and false accusation of bullies to define them or keep them pinned down. But, remember–not everyone can hold on.

It takes just one to stand, speak, be bold, have faith, take heart, be strong and resilient with us–so that we no longer have to be alone.

Stand up. Speak up. Together, we are stronger, and just a little bit braver.

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(c) By April McCallum, Destiny’s Women™ – “Championing the Life, Freedom & Destiny of Women”


Sparkle a Little Brighter


Sparkle Brighter

There’s an old expression about human existence that says “in the end, no one gets out alive.” While that’s true, we all have whatever amount of time that we do have here, to live. In other words, to “be alive” while we are still living. To choose to be present. To make a decision to bring life to our moments (thoughts, attitudes, circumstances, expectations and relationships) or at least, allow life to infuse them. Life, in part, means energy, possibility and hope.

It is no secret that life ebbs and flows. Some seasons of our journey are simply more of a challenge. But that doesn’t mean we don’t have control over our attitude or mindset in the midst of those seasons. There may be times when you feel darkness creeping in, but that doesn’t mean you can’t turn up the wattage. Sometimes, we just need to plant a flag in it and say, “No more!”

When you feel darkness or discouragement closing in, take time to breathe in memories of goodness and joy, and the little things that have encouraged or lifted your spirit in the past. Let yourself reminisce about the things that once made your heart smile. Look for beauty in creation. Take inventory of the innumerable blessings (whether they’re things, people, discoveries or insights) that you have to be grateful for.

Hope is faith holding out its hand in the dark. -George Iles

Once you choose hope, anything’s possible. -Christopher Reeve

Love is the light that brightens every heart’s darkness. -Bryant McGill

When the world says, “Give up,” hope whispers, “Try it one more time.” -Author Unknown

All of us have memory vaults filled with positive and beautiful gifts, some more than others, but no one is exempt. Sometimes we just need to lift the vault handle and be reminded. Hope believes. Love frees.

So here’s a friendly reminder: when the light dims, sparkle a little brighter.

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(c) By April McCallum, Destiny’s Women™ – “Championing the Life, Freedom & Destiny of Women”



In reflection of Teachers Appreciation Week…

One mind at a time.
One imagination at a time.
One heart at a time.
One smile at a time….
It only takes one teacher to inspire a student.
It only takes one student to inspire the world.

-April McCallum, @DestinysWomen


Feelings Are Often Liars


Feelings Are Often Liars

How we feel is not necessarily indicative of what is. How we feel is often subject to those we have chosen to surround ourselves with, the voices we choose to hear, and the choices we’ve made for ourselves based on circumstances. Choice is about freedom. But our choices are not always what serve us best. Sometimes, through our freedom of choice, we end up crippled and imprisoned by that same freedom. Not by way of the freedom itself, but because we mishandle our own freedom. We sometimes make the wrong choice, and in turn, hurt ourselves or others in the process.

As I said in my last post, Feelings: Friend or Foe?, feelings can sometimes be fickle and sometimes be liars. A person can be told that they are worthless or ugly or that their dreams are stupid and will never come true. If they begin to believe those lies,  they’ll start to feel that they are worthless or ugly or that their dreams are stupid and they will never come true–essentially, coming into a false agreement.

There are people whose own parents, bosses or culture told them that they were worthless and would never amount to anything, and so, they didn’t. Women who have countless times been turned against by a lover, family member or so-called friend who labeled them “ugly” or “less than”, and they took that sting and allowed themselves to start believing and perpetuating that same lie to themselves. How often have we seen the pulling back of someone who once believed in their dreams, but because someone’s words tore the roots of their dream right out of their heart, they curled up and wilted right in front of our eyes?

On the other hand, there are people we know who have faced the same exact accusations, and yet, in the face of hate, hardship and hurt, chose to reject those words and those feelings. As if symbolically taking the poison arrow out of their own heart and saying in faith, this is not who I am. What a better way to take a stand and show the world, than to rise and to shine? It’s beauty from the ashes. It is shining a light of truth on a lie. It’s calling foul on the lie and on our own negative feelings. Even when it’s painful or uncertain, we stand. We keep moving forward. And importantly, we don’t wait to rise until we feel strong and able, but in our smallness, our weakness. Because we know, when everything feels hopeless and broken, feelings are often liars.

Best not to mix the past with the present. The present paints the past with gold. The past paints the present with lead. –Henry Rollins

The past is a foreign country; they do things differently there. –Lesley P. Hartley

Bring the past only if you are going to build from it. –Doménico Cieri Estrada

The obstacles of your past can become the gateways that lead to new beginnings. –Ralph Blum

Look not at the days gone by with a forlorn heart. They were simply the dots we can now connect with our present, to help us draw the outline of a beautiful tomorrow. –Dodinsky

Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt. –William Shakespeare

Courage is the power to let go of the familiar. –Raymond Lindquist

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage. –Anaïs Nin

I am not afraid of storms for I am learning how to sail my ship. –Louisa May Alcott

There is much in the world to make us afraid. There is much more in our faith to make us unafraid. –Frederick W. Cropp

Never let the voice of others drown out your dreams. Never let how you feel dictate who you are or where you want to go. Never let your past define you. Never let the circumstances of what has been, keep you from what can be. Our courage to climb a mountain, real or perceived, always begins, as the saying goes, with a single step.

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(c) By April McCallum, Destiny’s Women™ – “Championing the Life, Freedom & Destiny of Women”


Feelings: Friend or Foe?

One of the definitions of “feeling” is an emotional state or reaction, and in its plural form: a susceptibility to impression. The Merriam-Webster dictionary offers the following: feelings, emotion, affection, sentiment, passion mean a subjective response to a person, thing, or situation; and, “feeling” denotes any partly mental, partly physical response marked by pleasure, pain, attraction, or repulsion. This post is based on that little (yet powerful) word referring to our response to our “feelings”. The word is subjective.

Subjective — relating to the way a person experiences things in his or her own mind; based on feelings or opinions rather than facts.

How often have we heard others make comments like these, or we’ve thought or spoken them ourselves:

I hate how this feels. I love how this feels. I don’t know how I feel.

I feel unworthy. I feel helpless. I feel hopeless. I feel lost.

He makes me feel so unlovable. He makes me feel like a loser.

She made me feel stupid. She made me feel like I was a bother.

I felt like they never had time for me. I felt like I had no future.

It feels like no one cares. It feels like no one sees me. It feels like no one would ever listen to me.

I feel like I could take on the world. I feel so empowered. I feel like a million bucks.

I feel so old. I feel so young. I feel so ugly. I feel so pretty.

It makes me feel so vulnerable. It makes me feel so uncomfortable.

It makes me feel like a winner. It makes me feel like I’m nothing.

I feel like I have my whole life before me.

I feel like I can never overcome my past.

I feel like everyone else knows where they’re going, but not me.

Did you feel the rollercoaster of emotions, of feelings? We’re up, we’re down, we’re spinning around. I had a friend that used the expression, “like a box in the wind,” to describe uncertainty. And that’s just it. When we aren’t grounded within ourselves, we are likely to listen, consider, think and then eventually, believe what “they” tell us. And who are “they” anyways? Anyone outside ourselves, including the culture, the media, teachers or coaches, friends or strangers, parents or family members. Everyone busy telling everyone else how they “ought” to be or think or respond.

How unhealthy is that? It’s like giving away little pieces of the most valuable part of ourselves, our ability to think and make decisions for ourselves based on reality, not subjective or fleeting feelings based on circumstances or imaginations. People will have opinions, to which they are entitled, but we can’t allow other people to define us. Just because they try to doesn’t make it so. By the same token, our past does not define our future. Both of these have the potential to lock us into positions and places not based on reality, derailing what we were truly meant to accomplish, feel, and believe.

Certainly, feelings are an important part of being human. They are a gift. How magical it feels when love is present in our lives. How grateful we feel when we are blessed with unexpected kindness and goodness. Likewise, it is normal and important to be aware and feel concern when danger is looming or feel the heat of a hot stove warning us not to touch it. But to base our self-belief, dreams and futures on mere feelings, which can sometimes be fickle, and sometimes, be liars, is to allow ourselves to be robbed of our best, and the hope of what can be, the hope of who we can be.

If you’re one of the people who’ve been stuck in a place where someone else’s negative and untrue words or behaviors have invited you, it’s time for you to get “unstuck”. Get on up, and start dreaming again. Start believing for something more, something better. It’s not what “they” say. It’s what you say, and it’s what God says about you. Even if it’s hard, have faith that there is more for you waiting up ahead around the curve. You only have to be willing to take the first step, and then the second, and so on.

You were created for a purpose. What is that purpose? It’s your dream, it’s your life–choose to get on up and move forward. Your true life is waiting.

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(c) By April McCallum, Destiny’s Women™ – “Championing the Life, Freedom & Destiny of Women”





#TwitterArtExhibit: Changing the World Through Art

Through Art We Can Change the World. -David Sandum

Twitter Art Exhibit was created by artist and founder David Sandum to help charities and nonprofits with postcard-sized, handmade original artwork. Every participant, from artist to organizer, is involved on a voluntary, unpaid basis. The goal is to share collective talents for a good cause and 100% of proceeds go to charity.

The exhibit for 2015, Twitter Art Exhibit: Moss is the fifth installment of an open international exhibition presenting art donated by hundreds of participating artists from around the globe. Artists from as many as 35 countries have participated in a single event. The exhibit will be curated by David Sandum. This year’s show will run March 12-26, 2015 in Moss, Norway to benefit Home-Start Moss (a nonprofit organization helping families in need. Home-Start believes that every child deserves the best start in life.)

Social Media plays a major role in Twitter Art Exhibit’s ability to connect artists and those interested in the collaboration of blending charity and art. Past exhibits helped to support an abused women’s shelter, raise funds for an organization mentoring underprivileged youth in preparation for careers in the visual arts, provide scholarships for special needs dancers, and to purchase new children’s books for a struggling library.

Follow or Connect Online:

Twitter Art Exhibit Website

Follow on Twitter @twitrartexhibit

Use Hashtag: #twitterartexhibit

Follow on Facebook

Twitter Art Exhibit Organizing Board:
David Sandum, @DavidSandum
Nat George, @natgeorgela
Robin Maria Pedrero, @robinpedrero

Home-Start Moss Website


#TwitterArtExhibit 2015

Graphic - Twitter Art Exhibit (Heart)

Through art we can change the world. -David Sandum

Twitter Art Exhibit 2015 is almost here!

Twitter Art Exhibit exists to help support charities and nonprofits with postcard-sized, handmade original artwork and bringing together a global community of volunteer artists for good causes. It is the brainchild of artist, writer and founder of Twitter Art Exhibit, David Sandum. He understands that the positive and influential power of social media, art, and collaboration to communicate and evoke action can make a unique and tangible difference in the world. Learn more by visiting Twitter Art Exhibit online. 

As an advocacy artist, I’m especially drawn to this type of experience, and as last year, I’m participating in this year’s event. As Twitter Art Exhibit’s founder, David Sandum says, “Through art we can change the world“. I believe that we are better together and champion people who use their gifts and talents to make a difference!

This year’s event will be held in Moss, Norway and will benefit children and families through an organization called Home-Start Moss:

WHAT: Twitter Art Exhibit: Moss (Original handmade postcard-sized art to benefit a cause )

WHY: Twitter Art Exhibit was created as a vehicle for doing good through online community building.

WHEN: March 12-26, 2015

WHERE: Twitter Art Exhibit 2015 will be held in Moss, Norway to benefit Home-Start Moss.

WHO: Hundreds of artists (professional and amateur) from around the globe participate on a volunteer basis to help support charitable causes by submitting original handmade postcard-sized artwork for the exhibit. The event will be curated by Twitter Art Exhibit’s founder, David Sandum. (All proceeds go to the beneficiary).

About Home Start: Sometimes families need a little help to get their children off to a good start. Home-Start believes that every child deserves the best start in life, so they match experienced volunteers to families with young children to offer help and support. This support is free to the family and confidential.

It’s a privilege to participate and help in some small way, bringing attention to the need to keep children safe and support strong foundations to build healthy families. My postcard artwork for this year’s exhibit is titled: “Hope Lives“. 

Follow and Connect:

Twitter:           @twitrartexhibit
Facebook:      /twitterartexhibit
Hashtag:        #TwitterArtExhibit

Related Reading:

Twitter Art Exhibit 2015: Postcard Artwork Inspires Hope

Twitter Art Exhibit 2014: Creating Art for Good

Burton Artist Alistair Kennedy to Join International Twitter Art Exhibit for Home-Start Families

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(c) By April McCallum, Destiny’s Women™ – “Championing the Life, Freedom & Destiny of Women”


Twitter Art Exhibit 2015: Postcard Artwork Inspires Hope

Blog - Twtter Art Exhibit (Black)

It’s that time of year when artist, writer and visionary, David Sandum, Founder of Twitter Art Exhibit calls for artists to collaborate across boundaries and borders for a good cause. This is the fifth year for hundreds of artists (both professional and amateur) to gift their own unique little picture to benefit the bigger picture. Submissions of original handmade postcard-sized art literally “fly in” from all around the world to raise funds for a worthy cause.

This year’s event held March 5-26, will benefit children and families through the Home-Start Moss organization in Moss, Norway, and will take place there. All of the artists and those who facilitate the event work on a volunteer basis. Cards are sold at the exhibit for $35 each with 100% of the funds going directly to the beneficiary.

My submission this year is called, “Hope Lives“. In a world with so many uncertainties and concerns, I wanted my little piece of inspiration to be a reminder that hope is alive. When it comes to keeping children safe and families healthy, it’s important to come together as a community to help build strong foundations for them where we can. We are always better together! Though we may not always feel it, we are constantly reminded through each breath we take, every new dawning of the sun, fresh blooms, bird songs and the transformation of the caterpillar into the butterfly, that the possibility of newness and rebirth is a constant. That there is hope.

Connect & Follow:

Twitter: @twitrartexhibit
Facebook: /twitterartexhibit

Related Reading:

#TwitterArtExhibit 2015

Twitter Art Exhibit 2014: Creating Art for Good

Burton Artist Alistair Kennedy to Join International Twitter Art Exhibit for Home-Start Families

Join me on Twitter @DestinysWomen

(c) By April McCallum, Destiny’s Women™ – “Championing the Life, Freedom & Destiny of Women”


One Life At A Time

Just One

People who want to make a difference in the world usually do it, in one way or another. And, I’ve noticed something about people who make a difference in the world:

They hold the unshakeable conviction that individuals are extremely important, that every life matters. They get excited over one smile. They are willing to feed one stomach, educate one mind, treat one wound. They aren’t determined to revolutionize the world all at once; they’re satisfied with small changes. Over time though, the small changes add up. Sometimes they even transform cities and nations, and yes, the world. -Beth Clark

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(c) By April McCallum, Destiny’s Women™ – “Championing the Life, Freedom & Destiny of Women”


End It: Shine a Light On Slavery


Love is the light by which all are brought forward out of darkness. -LeeAnn Taylor

Today is Shine A Light On Slavery Day. It’s a day to join other Freedom Fighters from around the world to shine a light on modern-day slavery.

END IT is a Coalition of the leading organizations in the world in the fight for Freedom. With Coalition Partners engaged in work on the ground, together they bring AWARENESS, PREVENTION, RESCUE, and RESTORATION.

Learn More about Human Trafficking, Modern-Day Slavery, the Red “X” and the #EndItMovement. Share your #EndIt selfie on social media to join the collective voice and continue to raise awareness. Here’s your chance to get creative while linking arms with others to stand up for justice and freedom for the millions still oppressed and enslaved today.

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(c) By April McCallum, Destiny’s Women™ – “Championing the Life, Freedom & Destiny of Women”



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